Staying motivated, let alone getting someone to motivate you, can be difficult at times. One of my coworkers was discussing how her husband is not supportive of her when it comes to working out. I thought to myself, “Why do we need someone else to boost us along?” The answer is we don’t need anyone’s approval. If you want to run a marathon whose stopping you but you.
James Altucher, an American hedge fund manager, entrepreneur, bestselling author, venture capitalist, and podcaster, said it best “If you don’t live in a world of choosing, you live in a world of excusing.” That just means that you have to choose to do things for yourself, and not make excuses. This implies me too. My husband doesn’t support me in many things. I mean he takes me to my gym classes, but he doesn’t help me on my meal plans or nutritional system. It frustrates me to the point I want to give it up and say F it. I have to build that mental strength my mentor, Haziq Ali, taught me a week ago.
He mentioned four surprising ways to develop mental strength:
- Evaluate what your core beliefs are. What do you think about yourself? How do you look at the world? Core beliefs are how you look at the world.
- Look to expand your mental energy wisely. Stop putting yourself in the place of things you can’t control.
- Practice tolerating discomfort. Mental strength requires you to become aware of your emotions.
- Reflect daily on your progress. Ask yourself that you learn about your thoughts.
You need this in order to get the self-motivation. Get positive, get rewarded, and get peer pressure. That is right peer pressure. Always measure your progress and acknowledge it. It will create happiness. Scientists show that 75% of what we do is because of rewards. Peer pressure helps us more. Share support and competition will change everything.